The Presuppositions of NLP
1. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention.
The person doing a behavior has a positive intention at a deep structure level. When we are changing unwanted behaviors or habits, and moving toward healing, it is necessary to find the deep structure or original intention behind the behavior. We then create new and better choices that preserve the positive intention.
2. The map is not the territory.
People respond to their map or interpretation of reality, not to reality itself. NLP is about understanding and changing maps, which in turn can change perceptions of reality.
3. Anything can be accomplished when the task is broken down into small enough chunks.
The goal is "chunked" into pieces that are a manageable size for the individual or system.
4. There is no such thing as failure, only feedback.
Everything is an learning opportunity to find out what works and what doesn't work. It is important to separate behavior from identity.
5. People already have all the resources they need.
NLP teaches how to access these resources at appropriate times and places.
6. Every behavior is useful in some context.
7. If one person can do something, other people can learn from that person's success.
NLP models excellence. It is possible to discover the components and strategies needed to achieve a particular result and to teach it to anyone else.
In other words, if one person can do something, it is possible to model it and teach it to someone else.
8. The messenger never rests until the message is delivered.
When there is a symptom or communication, it is important to pay attention.
9. The meaning of your communication is the response you get.
Communication creates an experience in the listener or reader. The result is the response we elicit. That response may not necessarily match what we intended to communicate.
10. We are always communicating.
Messages are always being sent in all three major sensory modalities. NLP checks for congruence in these messages.
11. Choice is better than no choice.
The element in a system with the most flexibility has the most control.
12. People always make the best choice available to them at the time.
Often there are better choices. NLP discovers more effective choices and how to create more useful or desirable actions and beliefs.
13. If what you are doing isn't working, do something else.
A definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.
14. The mind and body are part of the same system.
15. No one is wrong or broken, people work perfectly.
16. The element with the most flexibility in any system will have the most influence.
17. What you pay attention to grows.